Saturday, 21 February 2015
Hot Chocolate Loving
We've had an intentional 'give the boys some one on one time' day today. It's been such a busy month and they are so fab at going with the flow and putting up with the demands of our life, but we felt it was about time to give them something back.
So, I found myself in a cafe drinking hot chocolate with my favourite ten year old.
Wanting to make the most of the moment, I quizzed him about what he felt his strengths were. Giggling at the thought of talking himself up, he settled on his top strength.
'I like being different,' he explained. 'Some people try to be like everyone else and they try to be cool but when you are just being yourself then you are cool anyway.'
I glowed inside with his wisdom. I love the fact that he is different too.
Then he surprised me.
'Come on then, Mum. What are you good at?'
Oh, I wasn't there to talk about me. I was there to give him a boost and chat about his world. His question threw me.
'Well, I'm not sure. I guess I'm good at cooking.' I answered, a bit feebly.
And then he looked at me, his hot chocolate moustaching around his mouth and his eyes twinkling as he interrupted my ramblings about cooking.
'I think you're beautiful. That's what's good about you.'
This boy who has caused me so many sleepless nights and given me so many reasons to cry, completely stumped me with his unintentional love.
And he carried on.
'And I love it that you don't stick to the rules. You stick to the good ones, but not the bad ones. And that makes you beautiful too.'
I was speechless. I had no idea where this depth had come from in my little boy who is growing up to have such a big heart.
Oh yes, hot chocolate was a great idea today. This boy who hates love and romance and valentines and girls and leaves the room when we kiss is developing into a young man who loves naturally and with all of his heart.
His heart, by the way, belongs to me at the moment. One day I'll have to give it away but at the moment I'm making the most of cherishing it and watching it grow.